We’re Looking for a Few Good Men
Becoming a mentor to a young child may seem like a daunting task, but our Big Brothers share with us how they got past the fear of commitment to enjoy some of the most fulfilling relationships of their lives. “At first I didn’t have any idea how I would spend my time with my Little,” explains Paul Perino, who has been a Big twice. “But eventually I realized all he wanted was some of my time and attention. So, I would simply include him in the activities of my day to day life.” Bobby DeMasse shared a similar perspective. “You don’t necessarily have to plan stuff to do. Just do what you would be doing — washing the car, yard work, watching sports, eating pizza. It’s about quality time and showing your Little what your life is about which may be very different from his.” The Bigs we talked to would on occasion plan special activities like a trip to a ball game, the boardwalk or a museum. But most of the time they recognized that their Littles just want companionship and often guidance in navigating the challenges of their own lives. So, sharing a meal, playing a board game, playing a video or simply hanging out provides every Little with the support they need.
